Older folks are viewed as “wise” for a reason. We’ve lived through many situations and had various experiences. We’ve seen what happens in certain situations.
When someone comes to us for advice, we are usually happy to try to help. However, the demeanor and attitude of some young people is a real “put off”.
Whether they realize it or not, some younger people come to us full of anger and rage about a certain situation. It’s often one with a quickly solvable solution, but because of how the whole thing is presented to us, we may shut down and not help.
Why is this? Is it just because we want to be mean? No. At least not in my case. In my case, I have a physical condition and stress and anger, whomever it’s directed towards, causes me physical pain. This condition can get so painful that I have a prescription for pain medicine.
When someone comes to me in a rage, or so angry they seem in a rage, about something that’s gone wrong in their life, it causes my pain to flare up and I cannot think as straight, and I lose any interest in trying to help them because now I have to stop and help myself.
So a message to all the younger people who might seek help from the older generation is this: Approach us with a pleasant demeanor and present your problem in a logical, non-angry mode, because otherwise, you might just be wasting your time.