It’s A New Day!

Good Morning. Yesterday I got very upset with someone because of their actions and what it revealed about them as a person and what it showed about what I thought was our “friendship”. I got angry. I got very angry and I vented to family and one friend. I hoped when I woke up this morning, in the light of a new day, I would find that my anger had disappeared during the night. Nope, it’s still there. In fact, it has grown fangs and claws. I embraced it and then started to turn it inward (angry with myself for ever believing someone who repeatedly lied to me). And guess what. I’ve been here before. No amount of anger or depression is going to change how that person who has made me angry behaves. They are probably going about their day oblivious to the feelings I now have. The only one I’m hurting by holding onto anger or depression is me.

Well, how many times have I read those words before? I did not understand them. They are powerful words.

I will live this day as a new day with new problems, new joys and new expectations. I will grab this day by the horns and make it mine and mine alone! No intrusion from so-called friends who have disappointed me for the last time. No!

I’ve made a to-do list and I will be to-doing it all day. I’m not going to drag yesterday’s anger or even what was turning into yesterday’s depression into this new day. It doesn’t deserve it. I don’t deserve it. I’m the same person I’ve always been and I will continue to be. I will not go down the path of anger and/or depression today. I choose to free myself from those thoughts.

Good Morning. I’ll be back tomorrow to let you know how this works out. Hopefully I’ll get a lot done today, but if I don’t, I’ll still enjoy my new day.

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Cheer Up?

I hate being told to “cheer up”. I just saw that written somewhere, and it irked me. Maybe some people’s problems are trivial and all they need to do is cheer up, but others have major problems and being told to “cheer up” trivalizes them and brushes off the true nature of what’s going on in their lives.

Would you walk up to a cancer patient and say, “cheer up’? or would you understand that maybe at that moment it was hard, or impossible to cheer up.

People have great sympathy for physical illnesses, but physical illnesses are not the only things that can get you down so low that you cannot cheer up. You may try and fail, and then having someone walk by and glibly say, “cheer up” makes you feel that much worse, like you’re failed them by being sad or overwhelmed or worried.

Don’t assume everyone you meet can express the wonderful cheerful emotions you exude. Many can’t, and your inability to see that is hurtful.

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